I just couldn’t have white friends growing up because we were so culturally different that it put even I would say a “strain” on our friendships…For example, when I couldn’t go out, or play sports or eat particular things they’d be like “why cant you just TELL your mom youre going out?” “Why cant you just eat pork?” “whats that thing on your head? Just take it off” They would absolutely refuse to see things from my perspective and forced their Eurocentric beauty ideals on me, told me I shouldn’t wear hijab and made fun of me for wearing an abayat etc etc and I literally never had this problem with my Asian, brown, or black friends, E V E R
White people can’t wrap their head around the fact that I am different from them, my culture is different. The way we talk to our parents is different. I do not wear my shoes in homes, of anyone. I have to pray 5 times a day. I don’t wear shorts or crop tops. My modesty isn’t “slut-shaming” or “oppressive” you just need to understand cultural norms are different amongst people with different ethnicity like why would you make fun of the way someone’s food smells or how their language sounds or the “ridiculous” clothes they wear and white people still have the audacity to be like “reverse racism” “we’re treated like second class citizens” You’ve never questioned your own humanity you’ve never wished you were born with softer hair or a smaller nose or bigger eyes to fit within a parameter of beauty…you’ve never wished that your parents werent embarrassingly bad at english when they were ordering food for you over the phone…you’ve never wished your mother would stop making you wear a hijab because all the kids at school were laughing at you….outta here
when you go in the bathroom and you don’t know if it’s water or pee on the ground
i hate hanging out with my friends because all we do is spend money!!! on food mostly. and then i feel poor and fat when i go home. i hate my friends
"i don’t need to write that down, i’ll rememb—"
A guide for college lectures
The romance industry conflates finding love with looking a certain way, and it’s hard even for the strongest of us not to internalize messages about the way we look. And worse, these messages are normalized. Just think of things people say when they are getting ready to date someone: ‘He’s cute,’ ‘He’s short,’ ‘He’s kind of chubby,’ ‘He’s tall and fine.’ Or men: ‘I prefer slender girls,’ ‘I’m not really into fat girls,’ ‘I prefer Asian chicks,’ and on and on. It is completely acceptable to say the most appalling things about the way people look when it comes to dating, and if someone is called out for it, their opinion becomes a matter of ‘preference.’What gets ignored in calling this level of categorization ‘just preference’ is a history and culture of mainstream advertising that impacts our psychology, causing us to actually want to respond to certain things over others. It’s hardly a coincidence that people are attracted to images of femininity that have been beaten into their psyches….We are taught to prefer certain things over others, and when we repeatedly see the same exaggerated images of femininity and masculinity, we internalize a specific standard of beauty and begin to strive for it unconsciously. Considering the exaggerated nature of these kinds of images, preference is not really a ‘preference’; it is more like a culturally sanctioned fetish.
Samhita Mukhopadhyay, Outdated: Why Dating Is Ruining Your Love Life (via o8x)
As a college student you’re either struggling academically, financially, or spiritually. Or all 3
when your friend has a really shitty opinion
When your significant other chooses a bee over you
the worst way for friendships to end is for literally nothing to go wrong, you just stop talking. they stop messaging you to see how youre doing and you get sick of being the first one to initiate conversation so you just let the friendship go and wonder how that person is doing and never hear from them again
I want to be so hot that people stare and fear my beauty